I have several article to write, and haven't had it in me to write any of them. So, I'll start with this one.
#9 on my list: Show Tony love isn't emotions, and I'll always be his friend.
Without the gory, boring, girl details, I've loved Tony for a very long time. I knew for a while, we'd never be together romantically, but, staying his friend was always worth it. Worth the pain and suffering. He was in my life, somehow.
Tony and I recently took a trip together: as friends. It was fantastic and wonderful. It was surrounded by beer and adventure and running (the biggest things we had in common - beer, running, and an unsatiatable love of adventure), and great for both of us. Until, our last night. All of the stress and anger and EVERYTHING of the past few years came to a head. He and I had a falling out of monumental proportions. An unrecoverable one. This man I loved and trusted got physical with me in a few moments of ridiculous intoxication and belligerence.
The next day, I had to look this man in the eye and admit two things I never had to him:
1) I love him and will always love him in some capacity.
2) I couldn't pay for his sins anymore.
With that, I stopped caring for the man romantically. I'm a divorcee, and that was tougher than my divorce. At that point, it even ceased to be about emotions for me.
And...the best way to love him was to walk away, and try to get him help.
My heart ripped open. I'm not sure what hurt worse, the bruised ribs or my broken heart. Here's to Tony, and that he learns to control his emotions finds that perfect woman for him that I never could be. May he be that great man I know him to be.
*This picture is our last night together.